If You Don’t Believe It, Why Should They?
There is a large epidemic of self-doubt and self-loathing that has been passed from generation to generation. It has invaded the country and many people accept the idea that they are to hate themselves and/or their bodies. Instead of bringing people together, this epidemic has torn people, largely women, apart. However, this epidemic can be cured with hard work. I have seen trailblazers lately who are standing up to fight and create a new way of thinking. I hope that you are joining in on the fight against this epidemic. We, as women, as mothers and daughters and friends must face the enemy and tell them what they don’t want to hear – we are beautiful no matter the shape, size, color, or ability. We need to stand up and let the world know our worth.
It’s so easy, especially after having children, to surrender to false beliefs that we will never be beautiful again. It is simple to point out all that is wrong with our bodies and to spend as much money as “needed” to cover up our imperfections. When we do this, what are we saying to our children? What are we telling our daughters when we lament about how we look in our new clothes? I can tell you simply – if you speak of your imperfections in front of her, she will eventually start searching for her own.
I love that some people in the media have really started standing against the negative ideas that women must be either perfectly fit or cover up their imperfect bodies. Have you seen any of these ads (and sometimes the outrage that follows)?
Sports Illustrated has taken a step out of their comfort zone to feature a size 12 model in their 2015 swimsuit edition. Check out this article about their and other companies move toward using a variety of women to model.
Speaking of modeling swimsuits, ModCloth came out with an ad that encourages all women to step out with confidence when they are sporting a swimsuit. They themselves modeled their new swim line. What a beautiful and inspiring ad!
Then there is Cindy Crawford who bravely showed her real body to her fans. What some critics see is a chance to tear Ms. Crawford apart while other women breath a sigh of relief that a famous model is real just like they are.
Last summer, Colbie Caillat released a music video that showed her and other beautiful women slowly taking off their makeup to show how they look naturally. The words and images expressing self acceptance shakes my soul every time I watch it. I hope it does the same for you.
If you struggle with believing in your beauty, consider what steps you can take to start seeing your true allure. It is not only important for you, but for your children. You can do this.